Meet our featured beauty with brains Amanda Bernstein. She is a Doula, Ka Huna massage therapist and Pilates instructor based in Sydney, Australia. She helps to support and empower women and couples on their journey to meet their baby. She’s also a mum of two, and it’s her personal experience that has driven her down this path to help other women.

As the owner of Essential Me and Pilates With Purpose, we asked Amanda some questions.

1. What is a Doula?

The word “Doula” is a Greek word that means “woman’s servant”. A Doula is a trained and experienced support person, and does not replace a midwife or a doctor. Doulas can attend your birth at a private or public hospital, and even at your home. A Doula “mothers the mother” and provides continuity of care with physical and emotional support during pregnancy, birth and the postnatal period. I offer this service to you from a uniquely holistic perspective, incorporating my extensive Doula, Ka Huna and Pilates training and expertise.

2. How will you as a Doula help a mother to be?

As your Doula, I’ll be here to support you by providing information around your birthing choices and discussing your concerns, queries and fears. During your birth I’m there for you, to help with massage, position suggestions, breathing and sounding techniques, aromatherapy, homeopathy, photography and more – ultimately being there so you and your partner both feel continuously cared for and supported. After the birth we debrief your birth and I help further with tips and demonstrations for settling and wrapping your baby, suggestions for breast or bottle feeding, and can even cook you a meal or fold a load of laundry. You may just need me to simply hold your baby so you can shower!

3. How do you most often support women during labour?

Often, having a woman present throughout the labour can make a huge difference. As a Doula, my clients have already built a relationship with me and the continuity of care travels through their pregnancy, labour and postnatal period. Often in a hospital setting, there are changing shifts of midwives and obstetricians so the simple continuous presence can really allow the birthing women to feel rested, safe and reassured that she’s not alone and that all is well. I offer massage, acupressure point techniques, words of encouragement and affirmation, aromatherapy and homeopathy – amongst other things. I also support the woman’s partner (if she has one) and give suggestions on things they can do to help, just to keep them involved and included in the birth experience.

4. Which labour coping techniques do you think tend to be the most helpful?

As with anything in life, if you want to succeed then you have to prepare for it. Coping in labour in my opinion means doing the work first. So not just attending your hospital’s antenatal classes, but doing more like a hypnobirthing or SheBirths course and practising the meditations and breathing at home. To me, the key to a successful labour is the preparation before the day itself. Trusting in your body’s ability to birth a baby and knowing deep down that your body and baby know what to do. Surrounding yourself with people that believe in you is key too. And I believe having a Doula is super important.

5. What is your take on the use of pain medication in labour and why?

Pain medication is available to women to use in labour if they want to. When I support a women at her birth, I’m there for her and support her choices unconditionally. Many women who choose a doula either do not want medication, or only want it if they really feel they need it at the time, and so I have a bag of tricks in my tool kit to try to help women avoid pain relief if that’s what they choose. Things like a better position, hot water, meditation and breathing can make a big difference. Fear in my opinion, is one of the biggest causes of pain, along with other potentially unnecessary interventions – like an induction without a medical need. There are different types of pain medication, from gas to morphine to epidurals – all carry risks for both mother and baby, and this is something we discuss during our meetings in pregnancy.

6. What is Ka Huna massage and why do you offer this?

Ka Huna is a Hawaiian style of bodywork that is deeply relaxing on an emotional, physical and spiritual level. We use long flowing strokes from head to toe and back again, over and under the body. It’s the underbody work in particular that makes this massage so unique. For those open to a bigger experience, I offer deeper work, where I use my intuition to find places in the body that hold onto emotional trauma that has manifested itself physically. Not everyone is open to this kind of work though as it can be very confronting and open raw emotion. I do offer Lomi Lomi style and Pregnancy massage too, and also work with a male therapist as some people prefer to receive from one gender practitioner over another.
I didn’t study Ka Huna to become a massage therapist. Going on this journey requires a lot of personal development. If for example I’ve had a bad day and I’m frustrated, then this is what my client on the table will feel. However, if I can clear these negative emotions and give from my heart and a place of love, then not only can I give a great massage, but it puts me in a fantastic emotional head space too. It allows me to renew my energy and I truly get so much out of giving. Plus, seeing people walk out feeling lighter, knowing things have shifted for them is a bonus for me too. Being able to offer my pregnant doula clients Ka Huna is very special.

7. And you are a Pilates instructor too?

Yes I specialise in pregnancy and post natal recovery, offering a mobile service to your home or office, focusing on functional exercises that reduce the risk of injury in everyday life. I love helping new mothers in their home, learn how to apply Pilates exercises back into activities like nursing their baby, unstacking the dishwasher or lifting a heavy pram into their car.

8. If one of our readers is pregnant, has a question or wants to refer a friend, how can we reach you?

I’d love to support them. Please check out my websites http://www.EssentialMe.com.au and http://www.PilatesWithPurpose.com.au and get in touch through there. Thanks so much for choosing to interview me – it’s an honour to help support other local small businesses.

 

Meet our featured beauty with brains Neha Seth. She is a professional makeup artist based in Sydney, Australia. She is passionate about teaching and spreading her knowledge to others and about helping her clients feel confident by looking & feeling good. She has done makeup for short films, music videos, Bollywood shoots, fashion shows etc. She features in makeup videos where she teaches easy and simple makeup techniques. Here is an interview with her, whereby she answers questions on makeup.

1. Is there any way to prevent eye liner from leaving marks in the crease of the eyes or smudge underneath the eyes?

To avoid that, apply a nice coat of powder on your eyelid before applying eyeliner or you can take a same colour eyeshadow and go over the liner or kohl with a thin brush. This will make it smudge free.

2. What can we do to make our makeup last longer?

a) Prepare your skin by exfoliating, toning and moisturising.

b) Use oil free foundation.

c) Use waterproof mascara & eyeliner.

d) Use translucent powder over your foundation.

e) Finish your makeup with a setting spray.

3. For girls who wear glasses, what eye makeup would you advice for them so that their eye makeup stands out even under glasses?

While putting eyeliner make sure that if your frame is thicker then apply a thick eyeliner to your upper lash line so that the eyes stand out. If you have a thin frame then apply soft eyeliner.
Eye glass frames draw attention to the brows so be sure to keep your arches well groomed.
An eye shadow that is lighter and brighter than your frames will helps eyes to stand out but if you want to go bold and add some fun use eyeshadow colours like lavender, blue, green that will complement your skin tone and will add contrast to your face.

4. How should we choose a concealer which matches with our skin tone?

For under eye area be sure to select a shade of concealer that’s one or two shades lighter than your natural skin tone. For face select a concealer that matches the colour of your foundation.

You can follow Neha on Facebook http://www.facebook.com/NehaSethMakeup

Meet our featured beauty with brains Helen Sweeney. She is a video, style and weight loss coach based in Sydney, Australia. Here is an interview with her, whereby she answers questions on video confidence and style.

1. Many women are nervous about appearing on camera as they are self-conscious of certain features which they perceive as flaws, for example, a breast cancer survivor might be conscious of how her chest would look on camera or a girl born with a cleft lip palete might be conscious of how her lips would appear on camera. What would be your advice to them?

Asymmetry in the body and the face is something that can affect camera confidence greatly. By restoring symmetry or minimising the asymmetry you can alter the appearance of their concern.
A breast cancer survivor can restore symmetry using a breast prosthesis or bra padding. She could also wear tops with patterned or embellished fabrics and avoid clothing with horizontal lines or a satin surface that highlight the differences in her breasts’ contours.
A girl with a cleft palate can minimise asymmetry using makeup. (Here I am thinking of a surgically repaired cleft palate where there is scarring and irregularity). A good concealer can be used to cover the scarring and lipliner and lip colour can be used to help in creating a new and symmetrical lip line. I also suggest avoiding a front on camera angle. Experiment with the pose and camera angle to get the best results, because the cleft palate will be less visible shooting from one side.

2. What according to you, is the root of camera anxieties?

Not being happy with your likeness in photos can be due to several factors and ranges in severity. When we look at a photo of ourselves, often we are hoping to see the face we see looking back at us in the mirror. There is a smiling face, a look that we make when we say “There, I am good to go, I am ready to face the world”. When this face is not the one in our photographs it is always disappointing.
The most common factors in camera anxiety is the reflection factor and the candid factor.
Firstly let me talk about something I call the reflection factor. The face we approved before we left the bedroom/bathroom was seen in a mirror and is a reflection and not as it appears in a photograph taken by a camera (unless it is a selfie). Asymmetries in our hair, brows and other features appear different when mirror-reversed. The compound effect of these differences create a confusion or a disconnect because it is not the face we expect to see.
Secondly there is the candid factor. Where you are caught unprepared, mid sentence or mid mouthful in an unflattering pose or an unflattering facial expression. These cringe-worthy photographs where we might look fatter or less attractive are distressing and certainly erode your camera confidence.

Could it be caused by something deeper like beauty anxieties?

Yes, certainly.
Some people are never ever happy when they look in the mirror and they certainly will not be happy when they see themselves in a photo. These people can only see their perceived flaws, they are hyper-critical of themselves, their bodies and their reflection. In extreme cases they cannot even look at their own reflection. This forms a kind of self-loathing.
These people are not happy with their physical appearance. They are rarely happy when they look in the mirror and they certainly will not be happy when they see themselves in a photo.
They often repeat to themselves, the unkind (and often untrue) things said to them in their childhood and their past by others. These wounding comments then become vicious self-affirmations as they are replayed in their own thoughts over and over again.
It can take some time for the destructive thoughts to be replaced with realistic and positive ones but it is very worthwhile to find help to overcome this as it will see a boost to their overall personal confidence, not just their camera confidence and this can be life changing. I love working with these clients.

3. How do you approach styling women of different shapes and sizes?

Styling involves understanding the client’s body shape and how to dress it with clothing styles to create this flattering silhouette. By concealing her body concerns and showcasing her most attractive features it is possible to take years and kilos off a client.
The ideal, sexy body shape is a balanced hourglass shape with a defined waist and a wider hip no broader that your shoulders. I aim to recreate the illusion of this shape with each client. This is not done by covering her with mountains of fabric, it is done using clothing that will show off her body shape. This is a very rewarding process and regardless of a woman’s size I always dress her for her body shape first.

4. What is the most common body shape concern you hear and how do you address that?

Carrying too much weight is the most common body shape concern. It depends on the client’s needs and the time, effort and resources that she has available.
For a quick fix, a good idea is to invest in some great shape wear to create a smooth and more flattering silhouette to minimise any bulges and visible panty lines. This may not be ideal in a very hot climate. Next, dress in styles that flatter your body shape and skim over and not cling to problem areas. Where time permits you can take steps to be more active and lose some weight and then tone up. This last option is perfect when there is a goal for an event in say a month’s time and you are prepared to put in some effort.

Meet our featured beauty with brains Santhiya Subramaniam, a 22 year old wellness coach and a plus size model. Here is her story:

“I moved from Malaysia to Melbourne in July 2016. I didn’t know too many people. I started a very small home based boutique selling Indian dresses, accessories and party stuff. I first started to socialise with a group of ladies around November 2016 which motivated me to make more new friends and meet them in person.

Then I started two different health and wellness networking businesses. It made me change my food habits and as well as the way I looked after my skin and body. I felt really good both mentally and physically. My social and networking group is increasing day by day.
I have always loved to support all kind of businesses and events. I did a few plus size modeling shoots but I did lose a lot of weight compared to when I was younger and I’m healthier now too.

I formed a group for people who want to lose weight in a healthy way and I started getting clients. I gave them diet charts. They gave me honest feedback. I have made a lot of beautiful and lovely friends this way.

My motto is be genuine and kind. You will get to enjoy your beautiful life more with a healthy lifestyle. ”

We asked her a few questions on weight loss.

1. What is more important, the amount of calories or the type of calories you consume in a day?

I’m not a professional nutritionist but I have done a lot of research regarding how different types of food affect our weight and I feel both the type and amount of calories matter. Regarding type of calories, it’s better to get your calories from natural food like fresh fruits and vegetables rather than from processed food, white bread or rice.

Regarding amount of calories, here is a guideline:

a) Two eggs with yolk per day is a good amount.

b) More than 2 tablespoons of sugar a day isn’t good. Cut down the amount of sugar you have with tea/coffee. Avoid them or have them without sugar or with 50% less sugar than you usually have.

c) If you had chicken for lunch avoid having it again for dinner.

d) If you usually eat rice often, avoid having it many times in a week. Either cut down the amount or try brown rice.

2. Is fasting a good way to cut calories?
No ! Do not fast. I would not recommend it at all !!!

3. Any tips on how someone can stay motivated while trying to lose weight?

He/she can join fitness groups on Facebook and share their experiences. That way they can motivate each other.

4. What is your advice to those who want to start losing weight?

Start by eating healthy food like fruits and vegetables more than your usual amount. Cut down sugar, fast food and processed food. Walking is great for weight loss. That way you can start losing weight even without joining a gym.

Meet our featured beauty with brains, Deepa Levi. She is a fashion stylist, freelance consultant, philanthropist and traveller who experiences and celebrates life as it comes. She has done fashion shows for women empowerment. She calls both Sydney (Australia) and Delhi (India) home. Here is an interview with her, whereby she answers questions on fashion and beauty.

Q: If you were allowed to own only six items of clothing, what would they be and how would you mix and match them?

A: The six items of clothing would be:
1. A pair of Jeans
2. A tight fitting V neck top
3. A polo tee
4. A Floral or striped Maxi
5. A short dress with a belt
6. A Mini skirt

I would mix and match the jeans and the skirt with the tops. The maxi and jeans can be worn during casual outings while the short dress and mini will be good for parties or night outs.

Q: Do you think we should avoid cosmetics with certain ingredients in them like parabens or sulphate? If so, why?

A: Yes Cosmetics with those ingredients should be avoided, you can alternatively use a good moisturiser with collagen. Sulphates and parabens should be avoided as they strip your skin of moisture and cause PH imbalance.

Q: Which celebrity’s style do you admire the most and why?

A: I like Susanne Khan (Bollywood actor Hrithik Roshan’s ex wife and India’s most famous interior designer). She has the poise and figure to carry off any outfit/attire. She’s not only glamorous but also very elegant and dignified.

Q. Is there any homemade remedy, that you would recommend for glowing skin?

A. Mix two tablespoons of honey with four tablespoons of milk and a pinch of turmeric powder and apply on your face and neck. Rinse after a few minutes. This will give you an instant fair and radiant look. If done every week, it substitutes an expensive monthly facial.

 

“I find the ocean strangely therapeutic. It’s as if I share a deep spiritual connection with it. It could be because I practically grew up on the ocean. My dad was a marine engineer and me and my mom travelled with him on ships for years. Whenever I felt lonely or upset about something I would just stare at the ocean and eventually the sight of the shimmering blue expanse and the smell of the salty sea air would make me feel better. Even today, staring at the ocean refreshes me, relieves my stress and gives me peace. It’s vastness make me realise how small my problems are,  compared to the bigger issues of the universe.

Research shows that the ocean has many healing properties. Sea water contains minerals needed by your body to heal and detoxify. It heals wounds, reduces infection and promotes pain relief. Conditions such as arthritis, psoriasis and depression are said to improve by swimming in the ocean. I would definitely prescribe vitamin sea to everyone. If you don’t live near the ocean, you can still enjoy its benefits by adding Epsom salts to your bath, using Himalayan salt lamps or visualising that you are on a beach while doing yoga or meditation.” – Tiya Gorain.

 

Healthy meal idea by Tiya Gorain.

“I like spinach and I like eggs. So I often whip up a spinach, tomato and onion omelette for breakfast or lunch. It’s healthy, easy to make, and tastes great! Both Eggs and spinach are incredibly nutritious.

Spinach is rich in antioxidants and promote eye health. It also reduces stress, prevents cancer and reduce blood pressure. The folate in spinach helps maintain a healthy cardiovascular system. Research shows that spinach helps us in improving memory and mental clarity.”

 

Winter evenings often find me in front of the fireplace, writing in my journal. I like journaling on busy days as it forces me to pause, take a breath and think about the day. It’s a mindful activity that I enjoy.

Here are some benefits of Journaling:

1. It reduces stress. Writing down our negative thoughts, fears and frustrations help us de-stress as it acts as a form of release. When we are putting our anxieties and disappointments on paper, we are less likely to internalise them.

2. It promotes creativity. Expressing our thoughts and ideas on paper enhances our imagination and improves our creativity. It awakens our inner voice and provides insights.

3. It can sometimes help in solving problems. Writing about our problems often offers a different perspective on them and hence helps us to come up with a solution. Also journaling helps us to tap into our intuition, thus providing answers to questions.

4. It can help you lose weight. Keeping track of our diet in a journal often motivates us to eat healthier. Also if we make a note of our mood before we had junk food, we will know what triggers us to reach for unhealthy food which in turn will help us in controlling such behaviour.