Meet our featured beauty with brains Katie Mincy, a massage therapist and wellness coach based in Florida, USA. She is a truly inspirational woman who has overcome sexual abuse and drug addiction, to reach where she is today. Here is her story.

“I am Katie Mincy. I’m 24 and live in Florida, USA. I’m currently a student attending University in pursuit of a Nursing Career. I am also a Licensed Massage Therapist and Health and Wellness Coach. But before attaining these titles, I had a very rough life.

I was abused by a neighbour when I was 7. I went to therapy for it once and never went back again. I moved on and it was never spoken about again. No one but my parents and brother knew what happened. So I buried it deep down and made gymnastics and dance my life.

In sixth grade was when my life started to really change. Middle school, or Junior High, is never an easy time for most kids. I truly struggled with depression and anxiety because of the area and social status of the kids I grew up around. I grew up in a town where, if your parents didn’t make a certain amount of money to be able to buy you the “best” clothes or the “newest” cell phone or technology, you got made fun of. If you didn’t play a sport for the school team, you were made fun of. If you weren’t stick thin and wore size 00 from Abercrombie or Holister, you were made fun of. After a while, I figured out that no matter what I did to fit in, because I had already been made fun of for one thing, I wasn’t going to be accepted. Rumours were spread about me that I was a lesbian and that I tried to convince girls on the dance team to sleep with me.

When High school came around, I had my first boyfriend and those rumors had started to die down. But other rumors had begun. Now that I had a boyfriend, people assumed that I had lost my virginity. However, that couldn’t be more untrue. In fact, it’s so untrue that the same boyfriend broke up with me because another girl slept with him instead.

After that, next summer, my best guy friend decided he wanted to have a girlfriend instead of spending time with me. Luckily, I met my current best guy friend that semester of school. Taylor has been nothing but amazing the past 9 years. I couldn’t have been blessed with a better person in my life.

But that didn’t stop the bullying from worsening and it didn’t stop the pain. I thought many times about suicide, to the extent of formulating plans and coming up with notes to who I’d tell my reasons of leaving the earth to. Luckily, my parents listened to my cries for help when I yelled out for it. We moved to Florida the summer after my 11th year.

Moving to Florida was both good and slightly harmful. It was good because I got out of the toxic environment of being bullied all of the time. I was able to complete high school on a good note and made new friends along the way. It was harmful because once I was out of high school, I started to rebel a little bit. I starting smoking cigarettes and pot as well as sleeping around and partying. I think because I wasn’t included in that scene at my old high school, I wanted to see what I was missing. Turned out that I really wasn’t missing much. Once I was through with massage school, I got my first massage job and realized I wasn’t making enough money to support both me and my boyfriend at the time. I was living with him and his family, and paid for everything for the two of us. By everything I mean, food, entertainment, drugs, and fuel for my car. So I got another job as a bar tender and realized that if I was going to be working in the morning and afternoon as a massage therapist and then working through the night as a bartender, I would need something to keep me awake besides an energy drink. I started to use cocaine as a way to stay awake during my bar tending shifts and then smoked pot to sleep. After a while, I started to use more cocaine to stay thin so that my now ex boyfriend would still want to sleep with me. I then thought that if I provided drugs, my “friends” would still want to hang out with me.

After realizing that those people weren’t my friends and that boy really wasn’t good for me, I went on a bender. I did a LOT of coke that day and didn’t realize how much I had actually done, until it was day 3 and I still hadn’t slept. I decided that I really did want to sleep and that if I slept for an entire day, it wouldn’t do any harm. So I took one of my mom’s sleep medications from her drawers and took out 4 or 5 pills, and took them with a glass of water. I called my best friend who was deployed at the time and told him that I was done with all of the bullshit of life and that I just wanted to sleep. At that point, I had hit a manic low point and was severely coming down off of the cocaine. I also hadn’t taken my antidepressant that morning. At that point, I had been taking my SSRI (anti-depressant) for about 6 years and my body was totally reliant on it. My best friend got really worried after I hung up and found a way to contact my mom. They rushed me to the hospital and after I came out of my blacked out state, I was taken to a psychiatric hospital for 36 hours.

3 weeks later, I turned 21 and my new chapter of life had begun. I started working again and saved up money. I gained a promotion through the company I was with in only a year. I took my first trip out of the country about 18 months later and soon after started school.

Here I am now, 24 years old in pursuit of a nursing degree. I have struggled with my weight after sobering up from drugs and gained way more weight than suggested. I took the healthy way out this time and lost the weight with diet and exercise. I started looking at life in a positive way instead of the negative way that I had once learned. I am now a Health and Wellness coach for an amazing company and love every second of it. My goal with both nursing and the wellness coaching is to travel around with nonprofit organizations that help both men and women that have been victims of sex trafficking. I feel so blessed beyond belief to have such an amazing life right now. I am being weaned off of my mood stabilizer and continuing to use nutrition and botanically based medicines to help control my mental health.”

Here is an interview with her.

1. What, according to you, is women empowerment?

To me Women empowerment is letting women of all ages know that there is an option to pursue their goals and dreams even when they’ve been knocked down multiple times. It’s lifting women up through encouragement and love. It’s showing those that have been through the hardest of struggles and defeat that they are NOT defeated and that they CAN bring life back into their lives.

2. What motivates you to continue your work as a wellness coach?

What motivates me to continue to be a wellness coach is the pure fact of knowing that there are people out there struggling with similar problems as I once did. I love knowing that by answering a simple question about nutrition or exercise I can help improve someone’s regiment of health and wellness. I am so grateful that I have been given the tools to help bless people with the knowledge of healthy living both nutritionally and mentally.

3. What was the hardest part about recovering from drug addiction? Can you share some tips on how recovered drug addicts can stay on track?

The hardest part about recovering from drug addiction for me, was forgiving myself for falling so low. It was really hard to get past the fact that I felt like I had failed both myself and my family. But, with the encouragement of my parents telling me that they were proud of me when I hit small milestones in my recovery and my therapist telling me that I was progressing and making big strides, I learned that forgiveness was easy to achieve once I allowed myself to be forgiven. As for keeping on track and staying away from drugs, I am one of the lucky ones; I don’t feel that pull towards going backwards like most recovering addicts do. I am very fortunate in that once I dropped those people that were toxic in my life and discovered what a TRUE friend was, that pull ceased to exist. Really it was the first few weeks of being without a “social” life if you call it that, that was just weird. Once I jumped through that hurdle, I quickly found new hobbies and outlets to move on with my life.

Meet our featured beauty with brains Shilpa Bhatia, a real estate professional based in Sydney, Australia. Here is her story.

“My name is Shilpa Bhatia. I came to Australia after I got married when I was 25, to start my new life in Sydney from Dubai. The only conditions I put in place when I received a marriage proposal was that I will not compromise on my clothes and want to work after marriage, which luckily was acceptable to my husband.

I never realised I was so career oriented or that I had so much willingness to grow, until I came here. Being from a middle class family, I have always adjusted to things like average job, average clothes, average home, and not having enough money to buy the stuff that I like.

I refused to have an average life in Sydney, I wanted to live life on my own terms, wanted to be able to buy all the things I wanted. I started applying for jobs two months after I arrived and got a job in customer service to gain local experience.

I continued my way through this, kept changing jobs to get the maximum exposure, worked with majority of the government departments and finally cracked a role in Compliance. Even after I got this job, I still wasn’t satisfied, I thought of giving my passion (Real Estate) a try. I started contacting all the real estate gurus in the market to get an idea if it’s a good idea to leave my current role (9-5 job) to start my passion. I was clearly advised by someone that it’s a male oriented industry, women wouldn’t be able to survive, to start a career in real estate from scratch is a lot of hard work etc.

Being challenged on my capability, I thought of it as a great opportunity to prove myself and started my role in Real Estate and sacrificed my 9-5 job in compliance which had taken me a good 5-6 years to get.

It was a hard way, you have to make contacts, build trust and there was lots of competition. But I did it. After a year of struggle, I can say I now get contacted by clients to sell their homes, and feel extremely proud when that happens.

Today (It has been 9 years since I came to Sydney) I’m a mum of two beautiful children, wife of an extremely cooperative husband and have a good life and career.

My story proves that we women can overcome the hardest of challenges, we are not scared of taking risks and majority of the times we just do it because we can.”

Here is an interview with her.

1. How hard was it to start your life and career from scratch in a new country?

It was quite difficult but if you have got the urge to prove yourself and have a “just do it” attitude, you will overcome the difficulties in some way or other. That’s how I overcame all difficulties which came my way.

2. Did you face any gender related roadblocks in your career? If so, how did you deal with them?

Even though Real Estate is a male dominated industry, if you’ve got the right knowledge and the skills, people would be keen to deal with you, regardless of your gender. Since I had the right knowledge and skills, I didn’t face any roadblocks.

3. What is your advice to women who are just starting out in a male dominated industry and want to be successful?

Embrace the opportunity. One of the great things about being a woman in a male-dominated industry is standing out. I did not enter the Real Estate industry because I wanted to challenge anyone, I felt I was good at it and passionate about properties. My advice to all the women out there is just go for it, If you’ve got the skill and the attitude, you will be successful, regardless.

Meet our featured beauty with brains Vanessa Safajou, a yoga instructor based in Sydney, Australia. Here is an interview with her.

1. It can be intimidating to attend a yoga class for the first time. What advice would you give a first-timer?

Do a bit of research to get a better idea of what kind of class is right for you. There are SO many different classes out there and it can get a bit overwhelming; there’s Hatha, Vinyasa, Hot Flow, Ashtanga, Iyengar, Bikram, Yin, Restorative, Power; just to name a few. Once you’ve found a studio or gym you’re keen to try out, have a read of the class descriptions and choose which class or classes seem most up your alley.

Classes with words like Yin, Restorative, Gentle or Slow in the title are generally lower intensity and a good place to start if you’re looking for a more nurturing introduction to yoga. This doesn’t mean these classes are ‘boring’ or ‘easy’, but they do have a more cooling and calming energy, often with simple postures held for time and with the use of props to make you more comfortable.

Flow, Vinyasa, and most heated classes generally have a focus on flowing through movement with the breath and visiting many of the fundamental postures of yoga (think Downward Facing Dog, Plank Pose, Cobra Pose, Warrior 1 and 2, Childs Pose etc.) that help to improve overall flexibility and strength of the whole body. Even if the class isn’t heated, these classes can really build up a sweat and are a great workout, so if you’re already active and looking for a more physically challenging yoga experience this would be a great option for you.

If you’re apprehensive to go to a class by yourself, think about going with a friend, partner or family member; maybe someone who already attends yoga classes and can introduce you to their favourite teacher, or even someone who is also nervous about trying a class for the first time. Knowing that you have someone to talk to before class, lay your mat next to, and maybe have a giggle with when you see some of the weird shapes we fold our bodies into, can make you feel so much more comfortable and at ease. Speaking of comfort, make sure you go to class well hydrated, avoid eating a big meal before class (yoga really kicks the digestive system into gear) and wear clothes you can comfortably move around in.

Also, be as open as you can to trying different classes with different teachers. Just as each of our bodies has a different experience with the yoga practice, each teacher has their own unique way of guiding you through this practice. Some teachers have a more anatomical approach to their classes while others focus more on the energetic, spiritual or philosophical aspects of the practice, all of which have enormous value, but when you find a class or teacher that really resonates with you, it makes the whole experience even more enjoyable and rewarding.

2. What advice would you give to a woman who feels she doesn’t have the right kind of body to practice yoga?

I would tell her that there is no right or wrong kind of body to practice yoga, that’s one of the most beautiful things about yoga. Probably the most common thing I hear from first timers or people that are reluctant to try yoga is, “I’m too inflexible to do yoga”. As someone who only a few years ago couldn’t touch my toes, I can assure you that if you are not flexible, you should try yoga. Yoga is such a great low-impact way to build and improve flexibility and strength of the muscles, joints and connective tissues and helps to build body and self-awareness along the way. The beauty of this practice is that it’s completely unique to each person; no two bodies are the same and this is reflected in yoga. In the different stages of our lives, factors like pregnancy, childbirth, injuries and illness can make certain aspects of the yoga practice less accessible or appropriate for our bodies at that time, but it doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t be practicing yoga. As teachers, we learn the infinite ways in which we can modify and adjust postures to best fit the different body shapes, injuries and limitations we encounter in our students. Something I always encourage my students is to do is make the postures and movements fit your body, not the other way around.

Yoga is not solely a physical practice; in the Yoga Sutras (one of the most significant and renown yoga texts) Patanjali details the eight-limbed path of yoga on which physical postures (asana) make up only one of the eight limbs. There is so much more depth and benefit to the yoga practice, it helps us to connect and find a deeper awareness within ourselves emotionally and spiritually through non-physical practices like pranayama (breath control) and meditation, and if this is something you’re interested in exploring don’t be afraid to ask around for teachers or studios that offer classes that include these practices.

Finally, don’t be afraid to talk to a teacher about your worries or doubts. If you have a particular studio or teacher that you’ve been wanting to check out, you could call or stop by after a class and just have a chat. Let them know what might be holding you back, and they can advise you which classes might be more of a gentle introduction to yoga or more suitable for whatever physical limitations you may be working with.

3. What are some common incorrect assumptions about yoga?

That you need to be flexible to do yoga! This is so not true, and scares away some of the people that need yoga the most.

That yoga is boring or not challenging. It makes me really sad when people tell me they had an unenjoyable experience in a class because they found it boring or too easy. Even looking at yoga just in a physical sense (which is why a lot of people try yoga), there is so much to learn about even the most basic postures, we can never perfect a posture. Even though you may not break a sweat in classes like Yin and Restorative yoga, holding postures for long periods of time and being still can be really challenging in itself, as it gives us no choice but to be alone with our thoughts and can bring a lot of emotion and tension that we store in our bodies to the surface. There are lessons to be learned in every class whether you spend most of the time laying in Savasana or end up dripping in sweat from impressive flows and inversions, as long as we are open to them.

Again, doing a bit of research about the classes you want to attend will hopefully help you find a class that will bring you the experience you’re looking for.

4. Can yoga help in healing?

Absolutely, and in more ways than one.

Firstly, yoga is an incredible tool for healing the physical body. So many people come to yoga as a recommendation from their physio or doctor to gently reintroduce movement and to strengthen the body after childbirth, injury or illness. Yoga helps to improve flexibility, strength and mobility of the muscles, joints and connective tissues of the body which not only helps the body repair itself, but also helps to prevent further or new damage.

Yoga helps to unite body and mind, enabling a deeper connection with oneself. Many people find that their yoga practice has improved their body awareness; knowing when to push for a little bit more and, more importantly, when to pull away from intensity and be more gentle. Yoga can also do wonders for our mental health, with pranayama (breath control) and meditation practices being an excellent tool for those dealing with depression and anxiety. It seems like something so simple, but being able to breathe steadily and deeply, especially in moments of stress or discomfort, is an invaluable tool.

Finally, yoga helps to improve the relationship we have with ourselves and minimise the negative self-talk that can unfortunately dominate our internal dialogue. The more we get to explore our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual states we get a deeper understanding of the way we feel and process our emotions and experiences, and move towards finding acceptance and contentment within ourselves.

Tips By Tiya Gorain:

“I used to be a sugar addict. Every half an hour I would find myself reaching for chocolate, ice-cream or a muffin. If there was nothing sweet in the fridge, I would make myself a cup of tea or coffee and load it with sugar. Here are the steps that helped me gradually beat my sugar addiction.

1. Admitting that I have a problem

I have been in denial for years. I would tell myself those late afternoon sugar cravings were completely normal and there was nothing wrong in stuffing myself with unhealthy sugary snacks. Then when I was pregnant I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes. The dietician I was referred to, told me I have to change my eating habits as otherwise I will be at a high risk of developing diabetes when I was older. That was the first time I acknowledged that I had a sugar addiction and needed to do something to address the problem. So the first step is to identify that you have a problem and taking steps to beat it.

2. Drinking water or a healthy liquid

I started with drinking lots of water. Whenever I was hungry in between meals, I would drink a glass of water. This reduced my hunger and sweet cravings a bit. Sometimes water wasn’t enough so I opted for some other healthy liquid like herbal tea or home-made lemonade.

3. Eating more protein

I found that eating a protein rich lunch made me feel full longer and as a result I was eating less sugary things. I am vegetarian on Mondays. So I eat lentils and kidney beans on Mondays. You can find simple tasty recipes for lentils and kidney beans on the internet. On other days I eat lean meat, fish and eggs. My favourites are chicken salad, grilled fish and egg-white omelettes.

4. Reducing stress

My sugar cravings were directly proportional to my stress levels. The more stressed I was, the more I binged on chocolate and cakes. So I started doing meditation for ten minutes every day. I also started keeping fresh flowers in my house and lighting aromatherapy candles. All these helped calm my mind and reduce my stress which in turn helped me manage my sugar addiction.

5. Eating spicy food

Being an Indian I started using more of the spices that my mom and grandmom used, in my cooking. I started using more turmeric and coriander powder as well as included cardamoms, cinnamon and cloves in my cooking. I found having spicy food significantly reduced my sugar cravings.

6. Having wine with a meal

I read somewhere that alcohol has sugar blocking properties. So sometimes I sit down to eat with half a glass of wine. I sip the wine very slowly while eating and find that it stops me from reaching for that candy jar or chocolate bar later. I didn’t drink wine or any alcohol during pregnancy though. Only started after my daughter was on formula.”

Meet our featured beauty with brains Rebecca Ribbons, a fashion designer based in Sydney, Australia. Here is her story.

“Mostly self taught and under the tutelage of my beautiful mother/angel, bridal couturier Rose Ribbons, I learn more and more as I go along a similar journey to hers, the absolute creativity, patience and diligence that she tried to teach me. These qualities though I am finding, can only be learned in time and in the doing.

I studied fashion design after finishing high school but didn’t pursue it for about a decade, which I spent learning business and working as a bookkeeper in a variety of small businesses. I enjoyed it as much as possible but eventually couldn’t ignore the need to follow my creative urges towards fashion and design.

So I started my label, Smoke’n’Whisky, with the help of my former partner. We named it after our two cats, Smoke (may she be at peace) and Whisky, the ginger legend.

Smoke’n’Whisky was originally my little rebel clothing label where I made interesting pieces of clothing mostly inspired by fabric. This was and still is the outlet for my raging fabric fetish and slightly rebellious inclinations. Smoke’n’Whisky was born in 2007 and however old it becomes, will always be my baby.

Following a dream we both held, my mother and I went into partnership and opened a Couture dressmaking studio in Newport in 2010. We worked together there for three years, during which I learnt so much more from her, which I never knew that I didn’t know. In 2015, Rosy retired to play bridge and golf in the country with my father, and after much soul searching and consideration that a Libran gives to anything important, I decided to re-focus on my true love of fabric and design and pick up my sleeping baby, Smoke’n’Whisky.

As I am inspired by fabric, I began sourcing fabric from cultures such as Japan and India and have found much joy in re-birthing traditional garments into my own interpretations in partnership with the fabric itself.

My focus is on developing new styles of marrying the fabric with the female body to achieve a sense of balance and beauty in a delicate fusion of fabric, form and function.

I strive to maintain strong ethical principles surrounding all aspects of my business model and design process, remaining true to my values of sustainability, transparency and fair trade practices.

My objective is to breathe new life into the art of couture and create a sustainable and profitable business model to rise from the morass of corporate fast fashion, that respects and promotes others and allows a space for co-creation, equality and respect. And to help create a network of craftspeople, artists, designers, who work together to create a platform from which we can all earn a fair and sustainable income from our work.

I honour the qualities of Integrity, Respect, Honesty, Kindness and Courage and above all, Freedom.

Meet our featured beauty with brains Jasneet Jhinger, a personal trainer and fitness coach based in Sydney, Australia. Here is her story.

“I was born in India, studied in Canada and am now working in Australia! My name is Jasneet Jhinger. I am a Mechanical Engineer turned Certified Personal Trainer and Online Fitness Coach. My intense passion for health & fitness gave me the courage to make this career change and leap into a field that moulded me into the person I am today.

Due to the loss of a loved one, in 2011, I struggled to deal with the reality of what had happened. Without even realising, I started isolating myself from family and friends, work and social settings. One day (sometime in 2013), not sure, why or how, I decided that I wanted to start working out. I started training at home by following workout videos on YouTube. Soon after, I started realising how this was actually making me feel better, emotionally and mentally (saw physical improvements as well but emotional well-being surpassed everything else).

Ever since then, training and nutrition has been a huge part of my lifestyle and is a source of empowerment for me. I enjoy experimenting with new forms of exercises and programs as well as testing out various nutrition plans and diets to see how certain processes affect my body and mind. For the past couple of years, improving strength has been my biggest goal. Instead of having a body weight goal or certain physique goal, I have been focusing on getting stronger – every time I enter the gym, I aim to beat my previous record.

Training for me is not just a form of activity that “needs” to be done because it is “good” for me but is something that is LIBERATING, EMPOWERING & UPLIFTING! I can easily say, I have been able to create a healthy, balanced & sustainable lifestyle that is non-restrictive and is fun to live.

For this same reason, in 2016, I decided to finally give in and follow my passion to help others in creating their own healthy (mental, emotional & physical) lifestyle that is easy-to-follow and sustainable. I wanted to make others realise that it is not hard to achieve a well balanced lifestyle and that following a training program and/or healthy diets does not necessarily make you live a restrictive life that you do not enjoy. Life is too short to be living it unhappy (speaking from experience!).

Since I have been in this career, I have had the opportunity to work with amazing individuals and feel honoured to be part of their transformation (not only physical but mental & emotional as well). Based on my experience so far, I can easily say, “I empower individuals to overcome their stress & anxiety through my coaching and make them feel and look the best they ever have”.

Here is an interview with her.

1. Who or what inspired you to help others?

My personal battle with depression after the loss of my brother back in 2011 is what started this journey for me. Following a fitness and healthy lifestyle became an outlet for my grief, aggression and feelings. Working out, especially weight training, gave me a sense of accomplishment and made me feel empowered and strong. It is the sole reason I was able to come out of my depression which made me realise that there are way more benefits of training and living a healthy lifestyle than the physical aspect and progress. It has massive positive impact on your mental and emotional health. It inspired me to quit my job as a Mechanical Engineer and pursue this career in Health & Fitness to be able to help others see the same benefits that I did. I mean why wouldn’t you want to create a lifestyle that is healthy, sustainable, makes you happy and gets you in shape all while enjoying your life! It’s a win-win!

If you wish to learn more about me or my transformation story, please visit my website:

https://www.livfitlifestyle.com/about-me/

2. What is your advice to people who are unable to work out due to injury?

You can always work your way around an injury. I personally have a lower back injury but I have been able to work around it, do rehab exercises consistently so I can still kill each and every one of my workouts. In my experience as a Fitness Coach so far, 90% of my clients either have/had injuries or other physical limitations but they still managed to reach their goals they set out. One of my clients had both his wrists broken during a push bike accident and yet he still managed to stay on track with his training, worked out 3-4 times a week and progressing every single session. What you need is determination, appropriate training program and supervision from Fitness and Medical professionals. So really…..NO EXCUSES!

3. What are your thoughts on certain diets in general?

I am someone who keeps things simple, fun yet effective and sustainable for my clients when it comes to nutrition. I do not recommend or provide any set meal plans or diet plans as they tend to be restrictive and for most of us (if you love food as much as I do), it can be tough to stay consistent and motivated to stick to the restrictive diet. I mean of course meal plans and diets do work for some (Kuddos to you who can stick to it forever) but from my personal experience and my client’s experience, what has worked best is slowly and mildly tweaking your eating habits around your lifestyle.

Myself and my clients have successfully been able to create a balanced lifestyle that does not restrict us from eating certain food. All that matters is the proportion and hence we all follow the 80-20 rule. 80% of the time we ensure that we consume nutrient dense food and rest of the 20% we can indulge in some of our favourite treats. We do enjoy our weekends out with our friends and family without feeling guilty of that pizza or that wine. This way of living is fun, healthy and sustainable.

4. How do you keep your clients motivated?

One biggest tip (and the one that I apply to my clients as well) to stay motivated and determined towards achieving your goals is to break down your main end goal into smaller and short term mini goals. For instance if someone comes up to me and says I want to lose 40kg by the end of this year, no doubt it is a great goal to have and an achievable one too but trying to stay on track and motivated consistently through the next 7 months to see that 40kg loss is a bit hard. Rather than waiting around 7 months to feel accomplished, we break it down into short term goals of losing 5kg in the first month for instance, so the goal doesn’t feel so far fetched and you can celebrate your achievements throughout the journey which in turn keeps you motivated to keep pushing towards that next goal.

Other than that, I ensure my clients have constant access to me for support and I bond with them on a more personal level where they feel comfortable to come up and chat and share their concerns with me so we can work through it as a team. Because I totally understand that life happens and no one can stay motivated consistently – I don’t always feel motivated either and that is perfectly normal. We all need that extra push and external help to get through some of the tougher days and I make sure I am there for my clients when they are experiencing such times.

5. Anything else you would like to add?

I would like to conclude with one simple thing – creating a healthy lifestyle does not have to be tough, hard or restrictive. You can easily create a lifestyle that works for you as an individual, one you enjoy living, while staying fit and healthy (both mentally/emotionally & physically). Unfortunately, there are no short cuts to reaching your ideal way of living a healthy life. It is a process where you slowly start tweaking certain habits and create new ones and then only it can be sustainable. Short cuts lead to only short term fixes without guaranteeing life-long results BUT a healthy balanced lifestyle is what guarantees life-long success and happiness so choose wisely.

STOP THINKING & START DOING! TAKE ACTION NOW TOWARDS IMPROVING YOUR LIFE!

Meet our featured beauty with brains Seema Sahni, an IT professional and Interior Designer based in Sydney, Australia. Here is her story.

“A dietician by education, an IT expert by profession and an interior designer by passion, I am always looking for a change. After 22 years in the corporate world I went on to launch my online business ‘The Interior Designer’ in 2017. And this for me was the single most important defining moment in my career. I had fulfilled my dream. It was always at the back of my mind to be a business owner but I did not know how and when, and the ideas kept getting pushed to the back-burner time and again over the years. It’s not easy when the woman of the house is juggling so many roles. Not to be bogged down by it, I finally took the plunge and it all came together in the year 2017 when I made it happen. And now that I am a business entrepreneur, I feel that my dream has come true! I have a long way to go but I feel ‘It is a bloody good start’ as some Australians say.

I have lived in Australia for over 25 years and have always had a flair for home interiors and styling and a very intuitive mind with impeccable attention to detail and a passion to create elegant, inspirational and beautiful spaces. Apart from being highly motivated and energetic, I am a go getter and a perfectionist with a personal and professional motto, ‘To create something exceptional, your mind set must be relentlessly focused on the smallest detail.’ The Interior Designer is the culmination of my life-long passion for interiors. This journey is close to my heart and through this venture I hope to inspire those who seek stylish, classic designs for their home. I look forward to sharing my passion with you!”

Here is an interview with her.

1. What inspires your designs?

There is no one thing, but I draw my inspiration from many every day factors that influence and drive me to create beautiful designs. First and foremost is my sense of creating a beautiful and functional environment. I have always had an eye for unique elements around me, whether it is visiting an important building or going to an art gallery, exhibition or a museum, I have always been curious to know how it is created and curiosity leads to researching the details and re-visiting many architectural buildings on my various international travels and soon I formed my own opinions and over time I increased my awareness of colour and design and became more confident about making decisions. As my thoughts and opinions evolved while gaining more knowledge and skills, I started enjoying my new-found skills as they now enabled me to communicate my untapped creativity.

Almost all of us would have experienced an interior environment that is so balanced and harmonious that the feeling of being in it is very different and it involves all your senses. Moving across certain kinds of floor surfaces; the way the air smells infused with the scent of flowers or the aroma of leather; the way the light falls on angles or objects; how certain surfaces feel to the touch; how balanced the space looks, even if it is a surprising combination of objects. It can be a quiet and contemplative place full of natural light, or a hot and sexy night spot full of people. Every interior space, regardless of its function, provides an opportunity for creating a well-designed environment. Just being in it is an unforgettable experience. You know it’s great because it just feels right.

For me Interior design is a language which enables us to create a home or work environment to reflect our life and lifestyle.

“An interior is a natural projection of the soul.”

– Coco Chanel

2. What do you think sets your designs and work apart from the rest?

I tend not to dwell on this aspect too much as I believe each design is bound to be different as each designer has their own unique talent. Design is a creation and a story which is user perspective and drives development based on your specific client needs. Most designers have their own description of the design process but mostly these will resemble each other.

Whilst always distinctive, my work does not fit any one style, I try and give each client a unique look to suit the way they want their home to look and feel. My style is more of a relaxed sophistication of classic designs and timeless interiors with a modern sense of luxury that is fresh and stylish. I believe a house should be a home and should reflect a combination of beauty and function, any liveable place should look not only inviting and beautiful, but most importantly be cohesive.

3. How is our design and work different?

Interior design has historically been a costly, time-intensive method that involved collaborating with a Designer to envision, plan, and create a space that is not only aesthetically pleasing to the customer, but functional as well. ‘The Interior Designer’ is disrupting this method and bringing the designs straight to the client through their online boutique.

Offering a distinctive service of styling luxury home and furniture packages, ‘The Interior Designer’ is giving clients an opportunity to shop online at their unique designer boutique in their own time. Focusing on delivering the most lavish, high-end furnishings, for any home or office space.

‘The Interior Designer’ is leading the way with an innovative platform that connects the client directly to the luxurious pieces and delivery is directly to the clients’ door. For the latest in designs, colours and trends, head to our weekly Blog.

https://www.theinteriordesigner.com.au/blog/

It has been less than a year since I have turned my interest into interior design and launched my online boutique “The Interior Designer” I invite you to visit my website to get to know more about me and my business.

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4. What is your advice to women who find it hard to handle failure and move on?

Whenever a woman is confronted with a failure situation she is bound to have feelings of self-doubt and at that time it is so important to have a couple of strong, independent women around you who you can look up to. They can inspire you how to become a strong woman yourself and approach life with confidence. Sometimes it just takes a little reminder that helps us to realize the incredible potential that lies within each of us. As a woman, not only do we provide the necessary essentials for life, but we also have the power to create life. Aside from that, women need to stay confident and during a hard phase be able to transform themselves from the current situation they find themselves in and leave all negativity behind. Do not allow others to decide about your life, but instead seize the power that lies within you.

Self-reflect on your inner self and your inherent qualities which you had in the first place and these are a true reflection of the person you are and this is the real YOU! When you fail, the situation changes, not you. So, try and stay strong with your full-on confidence and utilize the down time to re-energize from the lessons learned out of a bad situation. This is the “me” time to discover and be with yourself and do more things that make you happy – it could be a long walk, or spending more time with loved ones. If exercise is a good outlet then hit the gym or do yoga, some like me do a lot more cleaning when stressed, the key is finding what works best for you and always be realistic in your choices – you are the best judge of your own self, so discover yourself and come back stronger and wiser out of a bad situation. Remember to get a different result you have to do something different.

5. What is your advice to women who have a business idea but don’t know how and where to start?

I would encourage and recommend our women readers to assess their individual situation, research about the type of business they are getting into and ensure they are not only ready to take on the stressful and challenging world of entrepreneurship but also be able to strategize, know and understand their competition, be financially strong, allow to sustain for long term and have a good business plan in place.

The timing has to be right when they are planning to start up. If you want your business to be successful long term, please design your work with the rest of your life in mind. If you start that way, it will become your norm and you will know your parameters from the outset. My advice to all budding entrepreneurs is, “When you design your business and your life in a way that really works for you, working in the business and living in that life will be definitely more enjoyable”. Creating a business that reflects your authenticity is the very best way you can think of to be on your way to success.

I have enjoyed sharing my story about the things which matter to me and how they influence the way I do business. If you or someone you know could benefit from my expertise in interior design, I invite you to get in touch.

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Meet our featured beauty with brains Nureen Chowdhury, a model based in Melbourne, Australia. Here is her story.

“I was 19 years old when I got married. Mine was a love marriage and my husband had to go back to his home town in Bangladesh, and being his wife, I went along, which meant I had to leave my family, who weren’t fond of our relationship, as well as stop my undergraduate degree just before my first year mid exams.

I gave up many of my passions, such as singing lessons as an advanced level singer with David Jaanz himself from Jaanz School of Singing in Oakleigh, fulfilling my dreams of being a singer, and my education, all to settle down.

I stayed in Bangladesh for 1.5 years. It was a rocky start already and we weren’t getting along. I wasn’t used to the mosquitoes, the pollution and the regular heavy traffic jams on the roads.

After coming back to Australia I learnt that as I didn’t defer my studies I had lost my university place, and at this stage I decided to go to TAFE (Tertiary education institution) to do my Diploma in Information Technology at Kangan Batman TAFE, Broadmeadows. However 1.5 years into my 2 year Diploma course, I fell pregnant and had my eldest daughter who was born at 28 weeks gestation due to having preeclampsia.

Almost a year after my daughter’s birth, I went back to TAFE and then applied for credit transfers to go to Victoria University and started studying Bachelor in Computer Science, however as I didn’t like a particular Maths module, I transferred after 1 year and did Engineering, and then a further 6 months later didn’t like that and quit.

It wasn’t until a very rocky decade of my marriage, and suffering from severe depression that I applied for divorce. I reflected on myself and analyzed where I was heading. It was tough, because although I had my parents and brothers in Australia, they all worked and couldn’t be around to help a single mother of two, most of the time.

I learnt at this stage that no one can help you unless you help yourself, and that I must pull myself together for my children. So I got a permanent job, lost 40 kgs, applied for my probationary license, which was a big deal for me, because one, I thought since I am married my husband will drive me everywhere so was sitting on my learner’s license for almost 8 years, and two I was scared of trucks, but now I finally, after 5 lessons, got my P license.

Then while working at the ATO I had a few women saying to me that I made excuses to not complete my degree. I lost a lot of my confidence due to my husband constantly putting me down and these women as well. So I decided to complete my Certificate 4 in Fitness which included two evening classes after work between 6:30 – 8:30 PM and two practical and two written tests, and successfully completed my Master Trainer course and got my certificate after 6 months with an International license to train as a Personal Trainer.

I was not satisfied with my accomplishment and as such accepted my half scholarship from Flight Centre, learning to use their booking system, and did 2 days of full time classes. As a result, at this stage, I now completed the course in 3 months and was given a certificate 2 in Tourism by Franklyn Scholar, from the flight Centre Academy.

At this point in my life my ex-husband had already begged to come back into our lives for the last 3 years, and so we remarried, and our relationship was now somewhat better. The main thing that made me happy was that my children were quite happy to have their Dad around.

After two years I still didn’t feel I accomplished anything. So while working at HESTA I applied through my employer for flexible hours and decided to go back to University and as such was given offer letters from both Victoria University and Melbourne Institute of Technology. I chose MIT as it was easier to travel to after work, as its also in the city. So I was working 28 hours and doing 3 units of studies, all while cooking and cleaning daily, helping the kids with their homework, looking after the finance, doing my assignments, studying for tests and exercising daily. It was very challenging and draining and many times I thought of quitting, but kept telling myself ‘It’s not too long to go, you can do this, don’t give up’.

After 1.5 years, I received my Bachelor’s degree in Information Technology specializing in Networking from MIT. However I thought my IT skills would not be useful as the Industry required further certifications for better job opportunities, I continued my studies and went on to do my Postgraduate degree. I then successfully completed my Master’s Degree in business Administration from the Australian Institute of Business (AIB), specializing in Finance in November 2017.

At this point I was at ANZ, and leaving for a new job, and on my last day my Manager and I were talking, and I suggested he go to see the beautiful former Miss Universe 1994 Sushmita Sen at the MMG 2017 Beauty pageant, the bonus being there will also be beautiful contestants, jokingly. He looked at me seriously at one point and said ‘You should enter as a contestant’. I laughed and said ‘I am not that tall, not that sexy and probably won’t even make it’.

During my studies I had gained 12 kgs, so upon registering under the Mrs category and being selected as a contestant for MMG 2017, within the first 4 weeks of the 6 weeks of practice I had already lost 10 kgs, due to exercising for 2.5 hrs after work and cooking and cleaning. Then on November of 2017 while I was on my last unit of my Master’s degree which included a huge project, I was awarded the Ms Charming title. Since then I was interviewed by Sabrang TV regarding my experience, did a Promo video for the All white Party and Punvec Kabaddi World Cup 2018, participated as a model in the All White Party, and now have three photoshoots (Thanks to God) all lined up.

I finally achieved more than I thought or even asked for in only 4 years. I now felt confident about myself and felt more stronger mentally to cope with any difficulties that came my way. If someone told me 5 years ago that I would or could do all this, I would have laughed and said ‘No way its too hard’.

My life experiences have taught me many things, one to be grateful for what you have, two to love yourself, three to only depend on yourself, and lastly that you can accomplish and fulfil your dreams at any age. Just as they say “You are as old as you feel, not look”, the same applies to life, you are as capable or as incapable as you think you are.”

Meet our featured beauty with brains Faith Agugu, a counsellor and healer based in Sydney, Australia. Here is her story.

“I always had an instinct that I would get better with age. At 20, I was looking forward to turning 30. On my 30th birthday I was eagerly looking forward to being 40. Throughout this period of my life, I dreamt about life in my 50’s. Now at 53, I look forward with excitement at turning 60.

I have always been motivated by service. My first job after leaving school was working as a volunteer in a not for profit organisation in London with children from troubled backgrounds. I then discovered the bright lights of the fashion industry and worked as a catwalk model for over 5 years before leaving London for the sunny shores of Sydney, Australia. I landed a job with one of Australia’s leading fashion houses as well as continued to advance my career as a model. I launched my own fashion business in 2004. Raw Fashion Agency, represented local fashion designers as a PR and Sales agency. I also began teaching at FBI Fashion College in 2006, mentoring the next generation of up and coming fashionistas.

After 25 years in the fashion industry and approaching my 50th birthday, I felt the call to return to helping others and took time out to study for a Bachelor degree in social science, majoring in counselling. I launched my new business, The Healing Process where I offer counselling, energy healing and mindfulness coaching to women tackling the challenges of midlife. I also run regular workshops to assist my clients to work through issues of self-esteem, relationships and addiction. I have a particular interest in balancing the disadvantages experienced by our indigenous community. I am a passionate, motivated and driven entrepreneur. Through my private practice, I seek to help women find their voice and claim their place in society.”

Here is an interview with her.

1. What challenges do you face in your work and how do you cope with them?

I think my biggest challenge is self-imposed. As a therapist, energy healer and mindfulness coach, I can put undue pressure on myself that I should have all aspects of my life together before I can assist others. Like every other human on the planet I have  gifts and talents and also areas of growth and development. I can be overly critical of myself and expect that I “should” get it right all of the time. I would say I am a perfectionist by nature and although I find it easy to be compassionate and understanding of others, I can have unrealistic expectations of myself which can affect my work. To combat this I have a great clinical supervisor, an amazing energy healing mentor and a fantastic business coach who keep me right sized. When I’m giving myself a hard time for not anticipating all my clients’ needs or second guessing my guidance, this formidable trio do an unquestionable job of connecting me with my humanity. I also remind myself that I am a work in progress and that my imperfections are what motivates me to keep striving for more knowledge, more experiences and more growth on every level.

2. Can you give some tips to women who are unable to love themselves?

In my private practice, I see many women who struggle with lack of self-love. I smile when they come to me because I intuitively know that the universe is giving me more of what I need to practice. I would say the area that I have had most growth is around self-love. As above, I have always been very hard on myself and at one stage, I couldn’t look at myself in the mirror. I was over critical, deeply judgemental of myself and I would constantly put my talents and ability down. If someone complimented me, I felt uneasy and unworthy. I have undergone a tone of personal development and have come to a place of deep self-love and self-compassion. I know deep in my soul that I am a kind, capable, loving and beautiful woman. I now run regular self-esteem and self-love workshops for women with the same struggle. I strongly believe that self-love is the most important work we need to do. Without it,  all other relationships come with an unconscious agenda for the other person to meet our emotional needs. I believe this is unfair and that we are the only ones that can provide these things for ourselves.

3. What is an average day in your life like?

I am a morning person and always have been. I wake up latest by 6AM, 5 AM on very inspired days. I either walk down to the beach for a morning swim and start my day with a live Facebook video to my FB Group Living Mindfully in 2018, or I go to a 6AM gym class or if I’m tired, I’ll do a 20-40 minute yoga practice at home. Then I meditate for about 20 minutes followed by listening to a podcast by my favourite inspirational speaker, or mentor of the moment. This is done while preparing breakfast. Mon-Wed I then make my way to work as a counsellor/caseworker. Thurs-Friday, I run my private practice and begin seeing clients at 9 AM. I usually meet with my marketing interns sometime during the day and come home for an hour’s nap. My evenings are filled with either teaching at FBI fashion college, participating in self-help groups or if it’s a Thursday, I’m teaching meditation at Titan gym in Coogee beach.

4. What is your favourite mantra?

“There is nothing you can do, say or be that will make me withdraw my love from you.” from the Universe AND “I am enough – there is nothing more I need to be, I don’t need to be smarter, more beautiful, more popular. Who I am today, is enough”.

Meet our featured beauty with brains Tula Tzoras, an actor, author, speaker and founder based in Sydney, Australia. She has spent her adult life in the media and entertainment industry. Between acting jobs, she also gained experience in the corporate arena in senior positions. Tula is a published author. She is the author of ‘THE TRUTH ABOUT ACTING’, which led to the publication of several articles in the ‘LEADERS IN HEELS’ and ‘TRUE NATURAL HEALTH’ magazines. After publishing articles on subjects such as Breathing, Anxiety, Heaven or Hell, Relationships, Tips for Happiness, Public Speaking, Obstacles to Inspiration and so on; Tula started speaking.

Her extraordinary life experience led her to spend a lot of time time on personal and spiritual growth, giving her a well-rounded education. On that journey she discovered she is an Empath and a Clair cognizant, connected to source and able to provide guided advice on any given subject. Tula Tzoras has since integrated Entertainment and Empowerment, her two passions, so that she can help people reach their full potential and in being who they really are. She is the founder of the Areti Goddess Events, and is on a mission to boost self-worth; entertaining and empowering women. Here is her story.

“My journey has kept me on the edge, overcoming many major challenges, my greatest gifts, putting me on a personal, spiritual and inspirational path and bringing me home.

Life …

In a permanent heightened state of anxiety

Quite beside myself

Trying to cope without my wings

‘Too sensitive’

Lost, like a scared little girl who wondered what she was missing

Acting, dealing with rejection

Health suffering

Finances fleeting

Heart broken, betrayed and betrayed

Constantly Moving, working, overachieving

Doing too much

Constant, Major life changes

Then…

I collapsed

First my mind, then my body

I lost everything

In the depths of depression, no light at the end of the tunnel

Diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome

Helpless

My passion to empower people led me to head a humanitarian project to end poverty and suffering for many years, volunteer in the community, help indigenous girls improve their self esteem, establish a Facebook Page called Sustainable Solutions, a Facebook Group called How Can I Help, run for the seat of Sydney Federal Election 2016 for a small party because I believed it would empower people, not because I wanted to be a politician! My poetry is part of ‘Village Voices’ in Surry Hills. Now, its time to empower women with the Areti Goddess Events!”

We asked her some questions.

Q: What mindsets helped make you successful?

A: I like the idea of a bird with broken wings, because everything I have achieved in life, has been by overcoming ongoing obstacles. A lifetime of duress is now peaceful and serene. I guess I was lucky that the way my brain worked, rather than ask why, or why me in the face of adversity, for some reason I always asked, what now? This opened me up to inspiration and I became resourceful.

I discovered that there is always a silver lining, thanks to the law of polarity or opposites. Our self worth is impacted when we are but toddlers and our amygdala, the limbic region in our brain programs negative experiences, rendering us bound to choose experiences to validate our programming. For instance seeing a glass half empty rather than full. It is all a matter of perception, hence my belief that there is magic and we can create a Masterpiece for our life.

My personal and spiritual growth journey taught me to develop certain qualities that I believe transformed the experience. Some of these qualities include self-referral, self worth, non-judgement, acceptance, surrender, trust, gratitude, forgiveness and compassion. If we see the best in people, they usually show us their best. The world is a mirror. Our inner life is constantly reflected back to us. So if we are angry, we encounter aggression for instance. I am a firm believer that what we give, we give ourselves and what we withhold, we deny ourselves.

I subscribe to collaboration over competition. The Ego always asks, ‘what’s in it for me?’ I run with spirit, always asking “How can I help?’

Q: How did you deal with and learn from failure?

A: As an Actor, you are rejected a million times. That was my most valuable lesson. Going from second-guessing and punishing myself to self-referral, knowing I do my best and that is all I can do. Learning how to let go! After all we can only do our best!

I have had situations where funding has fallen through on a project at the last minute or people I have relied on have cancelled without notice. I don’t take no for an answer, if I believe something will happen, I make it so. I think that is why my signature speech is Obstacles to Inspiration!

I don’t believe in failure. Every ‘failure’ is an opportunity to grow. I think the most frightening issue we have is resignation.

Q: What are your personal and professional goals? Have you achieved them?

A: I am happy with what I have achieved so far professionally. My goal now is to make the Areti Goddess Events a huge success to empower women because we are amazing! Half of our middle-aged women have less than 10k in Superannuation. One in four of us are abused in an intimate relationship, more than half of us are obese with health issues and we are still paid less than men. This is Australia today!

Sometimes we don’t realise that the heart of every issue is self worth. By boosting self worth and giving every Goddess all the tools she needs, we aim to foster a thriving economy of power entrepreneurs in amazing relationships with all and great health.

On a personal level, I am so grateful for the person I have become. I am happy and strive to be my best on every level. One of my obstacles has been health, an area I work on with great commitment. Another has been intimate relationship, something I have spent years working on within myself. I can happily now say, I am ready to share my life in a divine relationship. After all, I am a work of art, always in progress! Isn’t there a saying that we die when we stop learning? I have decided that life begins at 50!

Feel free to check out her website http://www.tulatzoras.com